If you are a leader reading this, know that you matter a great deal to the people you lead. The relationship with you has a direct impact on how people feel about going to work and how they show up at work. If the relationship is healthy and functional then people can show up as they are. If the relationship is not then people will show up ‘careful’.
I have been working with leaders as a trainer and coach for over 15 years now and I have really come to appreciate the value in connecting with people at a human, individual level. I read somewhere that statistics work for groups but do not apply to the individual. Instinctively we know this to be true.
John has a pretty good relationship with his boss, however; recently in the lobby of a hotel his boss passed him his completed appraisal form (there has been no discussion) and said ‘by the way, sign that’. The boss was on the phone at the time and missed the look on John’s face.
Eight peaks over eight hours. The Glencoaghan Horseshoe, part of the Twelve Bens mountain range in Connemara was my most challenging hike yet. Characterised by quartzite peaks, deep scree descents, ridges of varying widths and formidable cliffs, this hike demanded all of my concentration, skill, energy and mindset. I was rewarded with the most spectacular views in every direction and the euphoria that comes with meeting your edge pushing past it. Today I am tired, sore and happy. For me hiking is a flow experience.
Flow is a peak psychological state where you get completely immersed in a task, you lose track of time and your focus is heightened. It happens when you pitch your skills against the sweet spot of a challenge that is just enough to stretch you (Csikszentmihalyi, 1990). Research in neuroscience also reveals that flow produces a potent cocktail of feel good chemicals that fuel our motivation, creativity and learning efficiency (Kotler, 2014).
We all have beliefs about our selves, others and the world around us. However, these beliefs, which drive our behaviours and our decisions, often remain unexamined and thus exert an unconscious power over how we live our lives.
To quote Dr. Joe Dispenza, ‘Your personality creates your personal reality’.
Self-limiting beliefs stop us from reaching our true potential. They limit the scope of our dreams and aspirations because we believe in what we cannot do more than what we can do.
Here are some of mine:
Of course reading these, you can see how limiting they really are. If I believe that I am not creative then I won’t be creative. If this were my belief, why would I ever write a blog? Why would I create new and exciting exercises for my training programmes? Why would I experiment in life? If I...